Decisions, Decisions: Is the first look really for me and my boo?
FIRST LOOKS! Should you have one or not? Here is what I think it should come down to:
You should do a first look if…
Are you nervous to see your other half for the first time in front of everyone else? Do you hate all the attention being on you? Are you a shy person? If any of these apply to you, then I think a first look is a great option! A first look allows you to have an intimate moment with your soon to be spouse. You can use this time to snuggle and hug each other, cherishing the last moments before you become husband and wife. You can read your vows to one another, as not all written vows need to be read during the ceremony; they are absolutely something that you can keep private between the two of you! You can also pray together. Or you can read letters to one another. You can even just stare at each other!
Having a first look is also a GREAT option for anyone that is stressed about time. Does the thought of leaving your reception for even a moment stress you out and give you FOMO? If you do a first look you can take the bride and groom photos before the ceremony! It also allows you an opportunity to take full wedding party photos. That means that after the ceremony, the only thing standing between you and a cocktail is family photos. It is a huge way to let go of any stress caused by making time for photos after the ceremony.
You should wait until you walk down the aisle if…
On the flip side, if you want a moment alone with your husband/wife after the ceremony then you don't need to do a first look! Bride and groom photos are a great time to step away and take a breath. If you are okay with leaving your friends and family then you should cherish the moments you get alone after your ceremony. These are your first moments together as husband and wife! Your first moments to pause and reflect on the day so far. Couples often love having a moment that gives them a chance to relax after the stress of getting ready for the ceremony.
Have you dreamed of walking down the aisle and seeing your boo tear up at the sight of you? Do you love having all eyes on you (no shame in that)? Then maybe skip the first look. That moment when you walk down the aisle, all eyes turn to you as everyone stands, your future husband/wife can’t help but smile and shed a tear as they see you for the first time… it is truly a magical moment. If this is something you have always wanted, then don’t waiver from that dream. Many grooms want this moment as well! I find that more men than women have an opinion on a first look or not. It is something that is so unique and personal to each couple.
You should do a first touch if…
One final option, a first touch. You have probably seen photos of this, a couple standing on either side of a door holding hands but unable to see one another... it is a beautiful moment. If you want a moment with your fiancé before the ceremony but you also want that moment walking down the aisle, then do a first touch! It is the best of both options! You get a gorgeous photo op before the ceremony and you get the reaction shot walking down the aisle. Many couples will read a letter to one another, or pray together--I have even seen couples sing together! Whatever you want to say before the ceremony, this is the moment to do it.
Whew! Only three choices, but it can still be so hard to choose! Many photographers will push a first look because it saves time later in the day. However, this choice is something so personal that I never want to do anything to change your mind or force your hand. If you have your heart set on one of these options, stick to it! But if you are having a hard time deciding what to do reach out! I am always happy to help with any aspect of your wedding day! (:
